Parents, Children & Marriage

I just got the opportunity to read a very interesting article Daddy Knows Best: Should Dads Take an Active Role in Their Daughter’s Marriage Decision? by Kenny Pugh featured on Black Enterprise’s website. The story highlighted how a father requested credit reports, bank statements and medical records from his daughter’s suitor. Upon hearing that I began to really take two things into account my actions as a suitor & the future life of my daughters.

First, I must say that when I courted my wife the only good thing that I had going for me was that I was in good health. Of course, I had a lot of potential to be a good husband & father, but my reputation was terrible with no financial stability. Nevertheless, we married & we have endured a lot to get where we are today & we still have a ways to go to get to financial stability. My wife has been very strong, resilient, patient, loving & understanding in it all, but I know our lifestyle has taken a toll on her. I must say that I should’ve been much more prepared to take on the position as a husband & father. However, what I lacked in financial stability I believe that I compensated for spiritual & emotional stability. Yet the question still remains was that enough?

As a father of daughters, I now must come to grips with passing the torch to their husbands to provide & care for them when married. The honest question is will I be satisfied with them marrying a man like me. Since hindsight is always 20/20, I now know what it takes to be married & take care of a family. I know that finances play a huge role in the success & failure of a marriage.

That all being said, I would definitely & plan to request the credit reports, bank statements and medical records of the suitors of ALL my children. To make a good decision one has to be well informed. How can an individual choose a life-mate without all the information? Even if the candidate has bad credit then at least my children will know prior to marriage & can prepare & plan with their future spouse to improve their lives. Knowing is half the battle.

Read the article & tell me what would you do?

Daddy Knows Best: Should Dads Take an Active Role in Their Daughter’s Marriage Decision? Fathers played an active role throughout history -- so why not now? By Kenny Pugh

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