Wednesday, February 20, 2013

A Special Valentine’s Day


Since Valentine’s Day fell on a weekday this year, I’m quite sure everyone had plenty of opportunities to share love with their loved ones whether it was on the actual day or during the weekend. This year was a very special Valentine’s Day for me. I had the chance to treat my 12 year old daughter to a wonderful Valentine’s Day dinner. Considering she will be a teenager next month, I wanted to begin to inform her about having right relationships & interactions with gentlemen. So most of the night, I displayed the proper date etiquette that she should expect from any future suitors. I also presented her an oath, A Father’s Covering, that stated I as her father would protect, respect & love her for the rest of her life. We ended the evening with both of us signing the oath & putting it in a frame for her to hang on her wall.

As fathers, it is very important for us to teach & show our children how to develop respectful, meaningful, loving, right & profound relationship with people. Each relationship should be healthy and reciprocal. No longer should we allow our children to establish relationships that spawn hurt, lies & pain to themselves or others. It is our leadership & guidance that will change our children’s future & equip them to be prosperous. So I encourage all fathers to take some time to express your love not just provisionally, but emotionally, verbally and tangibly. For our sons, we will be the first man that they see & pattern their life after. Four our daughters, we will be the first man that loves her. We have to show them real love.

“He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” - 1 John 4:8 (KJV)

Monday, February 18, 2013

Black Power


To commemorate Black History Month I will discuss some of the most important Black leaders that impacted my life.

Growing up I often watched the PBS Black History Month specials every February especially the Eye on the Prize. One of the most fascinating parts of this series was the Black Pride Movement. It was a time when we as people said “Enough is enough!” We had pleaded with America to stop the oppression of Black people, yet we still weren’t getting the common respect of our human rights afforded us constitutionally. One of the most interesting pioneers of this movement was the Black Panther Party. I remember pictures of them standing in protest with guns daring anyone to confront them with an uncivil approach. Their resolve made me proud to be Black. However, it wasn’t until a high school homework assignment that gave me the opportunity to explore the Black Panthers even deeper that I realized the real impact that they made on our culture and communities.

While over the years, the Black Panther Party has been often viewed as a negative organization that laid the foundation for much of the violence within the Black community. There are many that believe that it was the position of the federal government to destroy the organization and also blame the organization for the demise of the Black community. During my research, I realized that it was not the later and that the Black Panther Party’s role within the Black community was a vital and important part to restoring justice to the Black community. The Black Panther Party implemented programs, such as the citizen’s patrol that monitored the activities of the police and limited police brutality within Black communities and the Free Breakfast for Children program that gave many poor inner city youth a good meal prior to going to school. The Black Panther Party allowed me to realize my responsibility as a Black man was not merely to myself, but my community, my people. I understood that community service would always be a part of my life, as long as my fellow man was in need. The disappointing part is that it has been many years since the rise and fall of the Black Panther Party, and our communities are still facing some of the same issues that the Black Panther Party was so adamant about resolving. When will it change?

 The Ten Point Program
1. We want freedom. We want power to determine the destiny of our black Community.
2. We want full employment for our people.
3. We want an end to the robbery by the white man of our black Community.
4. We want decent housing, fit for shelter of human beings.
5. We want education for our people that exposes the true nature of this decadent American society. We want education that teaches us our true history and our role in the present-day society.
6. We want all black men to be exempt from military service.
7. We want an immediate end to POLICE BRUTALITY and MURDER of black people.
8. We want freedom for all black men held in federal, state, county and city prisons and jails.
9. We want all black people when brought to trial to be tried in court by a jury of their peer group or people from their black communities, as defined by the Constitution of the United States.
10. We want land, bread, housing, education, clothing, justice and peace. And as our major political objective, a United Nations-supervised plebiscite to be held throughout the black colony in which only black colonial subjects will be allowed to participate for the purpose of determining the will of black people as to their national destiny.

http://blackpanther.org/TenPoint.html

Thursday, February 7, 2013

By Any Means . . .


To commemorate Black History Month I will discuss some of the most important Black leaders that impacted my life - the first being Malcolm X.

Growing up as a Black man I learned to live with racism, stereotypes and fear. Each has become intertwined in my personality, characteristics and actions. Often causing me to lose myself and making it even more difficult to find myself. My struggles and triumphs were often bittersweet simply because I was Black. In high school, I traveled almost 2 hours every day from my predominantly black neighborhood to a predominantly white high school in the north suburbs of Chicago and then 2 hours back home. I realized the differences and similarities of our cultures. However, one of the most intriguing things that I discovered was that I no longer fit in my culture. I was now an outcast because I talked different and went to a White school. Nevertheless, in school I was still the Black kid that didn't quite fit in because of the cultural differences. The great thing about my position in life was that I was young and nonchalant. But feelings of inadequate and doubt lay dormant, and would awaken from time to time. It is during this time I met Malcolm X.

For an assignment, we were given the option to read The Autobiography of Malcolm X with Alex Haley. While I simply chose this book because I had seen the movie & thought it would be an easy A, little did I know that Malcolm’s story would open my eyes to a better understanding of my life as a Black man. Interestingly, his life gave me confidence in the plan God had for my life. His ability to basically self-educate & impact so many lives gave me a vision of what God had called me to become. I also connected with the struggles he had fitting in with his Muslim family & the burden he carried when he transformed his beliefs of the Muslim teachings. His leadership showed me that being a leader was more than just coveting the spotlight, but being an example even when your closest friends & others around you have fallen & may be against you. As I look back now it amazes me how God used the life story of Muslim to impact the life of a Christian. So I would definitely encourage all to read The Autobiography of Malcolm X with Alex Haley.

Happy Black History Month!!